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What are the 3 Steps to Optimacy?

  Imagine radiating an energy that attracts people to you automatically.         We are inherently drawn to competent, confident and secure people.    They appear credible, interesting, and powerful.   You cannot MAKE someone be attracted to you, but you CAN make yourself an attractive person. Almost no one is out of your league when you combine –competence, confidence and self-esteem.   With these traits,...

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Sex 101 – Overview

“Sex is a part of nature…   I go along with nature.”   Marilyn Monroe     Humans are the only species that experiences so much anxiety, fear, and ignorance regarding sex. Even though we are instinctively hardwired to have “sex”...certain cultural and religious beliefs have influenced many people’s beliefs and actions. In some cases, the “influence” has resulted in shame, repression,...

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Conversation Openers – Part I – Overview

A good first impression only guarantees a second impression…   A bad first impression guarantees it is your last!     CONVERSATION OPENERS   Every relationship begins as strangers. The only way to meet people is to start conversations with others (or have them start conversations with you). With respect to dating, those who sit back wait for their prince or princess to find them are inevitably disappointed and...

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Safe Sex

  “Guys who don’t wear condoms should be forced to have sex with other guys who don’t wear condoms.”     DISCLAIMER: This information is not intended to replace the advice of a doctor.   Safe Sex   Although safe sex is not a popular subject, any discussion of sex would be incomplete without addressing it. Let’s start first with the bad news…   Abstinence is the only 100%...

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Video 6 – Bachelorette 2013 – Episode 1 Analysis

It’s a new season of The Bachelorette!   Are first impressions important?     As we showed in previous videos, first impressions are very important. In this six video, we continue our analysis of the first episode of the Bachelorette by looking at the limo introductions. This video features a guy who goes super aggressive and sexual right from the start. It’s the prototypical bad boy approach, but he went way too far....

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(Females) How to Communicate Sexual Innuendo?

  “Many a small thing has been made large by the right kind of advertising”       Women face many dilemmas when it comes to sex and communicating their interests.   How do you indicate interest without appearing too easy or slutty?   Do you just keep silent and pretend to think sex is something evil or nothing of interest?   A recent article/video on Yahoo attempted to address this issue...

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When to Change Your Facebook Relationship Status

  Your Facebook profile is a commercial for YOU!!!         A recent survey on Mashables (link) asked about when you should change your relationship status on Facebook. It’s fun to read, but YOUR decision should NOT be influenced by a survey. Here are some tips though: Talk about it in ADVANCE with your significant other. Think about the worse case scenario. (Are you OK with the embarrassment of changing it back if...

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Optimacy Video – The Bachelorette – 2 Ways to Know if You’re in Love

The first step towards wisdom is calling things by their right names. Can you define love??? Understanding love gives you a huge advantage in diagnosing and managing your emotions. If you don’t define “love” for yourself, then you will be a prisoner to whatever definition is applicable to the other person. In this video, we take a comprehensive approach to defining love and teach you the secrets to know when it is REAL! It includes an excerpt...

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Bigorexia ???

  “Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are”         A recent article on the CBS website featured a new concept called “Bigorexia”. While this article probably exaggerates the negative health consequences of working out, there is a bigger “mental illness” with bigorexia, anorexia, plastic surgery, etc. There is an epidemic in this country of poor body image and low...

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How to Get Out of the Friend Zone – The Critical First 4 Steps

  “How to Get Out of the Friend Zone”           Famous Friendzone Quotes   I love you like a brother”   “You’re so nice.  I wouldn’t want to lose our friendship”   Can you relate to the quotes above? If not, maybe this story sounds familiar…   How to Get Out of the Friend Zone Case Study   Four years ago, George met Brittany at a mutual friend’s...

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