There are many different ways to get your ex back and all of them have their merits. A lot of people spend too much time though concentrating on how to get their ex back without thinking about how they are going to keep their ex when they’re back!
It’s all very well getting your ex back but if three weeks later you’re arguing over the same problems or events that led to your break up in the first place then it’s only going to be a matter of time until you break up again.
The biggest thing about getting your ex back and then keeping them is very, very simply – FFM which stands for Forgive, Forget and Move On. It’s very simple and common sense yet so few people put it into practice. One of the leading reasons for getting an ex back and then breaking up again is the resurface of the same arguments where one or both of the people in the relationship have not forgiven the other partner for the breakup.
So, don’t underestimate the importance of ‘FFM’ when it comes to getting your ex back:
The easiest way to forgive is to understand. Try to understand the reasons for what happened so you can understand the other person’s point of view and why what happened, happened. Then genuinely forgive. You need to really and genuinely forgive your ex for what happened by giving the benefit of the doubt, understanding why your ex did what they did, and seeing the bigger picture. Forgive.
Once you’ve forgiven you can only then forget. You cannot forget before you’re forgiven, it just won’t work.
Forgetting is exactly that. Forget it. There is no point in ever bringing it back up as if you truly have forgiven your ex then there is nothing to bother remembering.
There is no point in bringing up the problems again if you are saying you have accepted what has happened. Wipe it from your memory. Forget.
You’ve now managed to get your ex back and you’ve forgiven and forgotten what happened so now it’s a case of moving on. You will still be lingering over the problems if you don’t manage to do this. Moving on is the most important thing to putting everything behind you. Try booking a vacation, a special trip or something else that makes clear a definite statement of moving into the future and starting again. Move on.
Putting these simple points into practice in the correct order will mean that you can get your ex back and keep your ex.